No matter how much of a social animal you usually are, going to a party on your own is surely an anxiety-inducing affair!
And then comes along that one friend who takes you to a party where you know absolutely no one! Soon, he or she disappears into the crowd and you are left to your own devices.
Maybe it’s just a house party which sounded cool earlier but now, you’re just left in a corner twiddling thumbs and thinking of an escape route.
But fear not, we have the solution for you that can help make any awkward party a fun experience!
Check out these tips for the next time you fly solo.
Do The Research
Do your best impression of Sherlock and try to understand the nature of the event. Get to know if it’s a casual get-together or a house party. Knowing the context of the party will help you prepare yourself for the social interactions much in advance. If possible, try to figure out who else is attending, and if there are any approachable names you can introduce yourself to on arrival. That way, you’ll definitely get the small-talk out of the way!
Offer To Help The Host
If you’re lucky enough to know the host, offer to put out the food or make arrangements for the refreshments – anything that helps you mingle rather than stand in a corner. A polite gesture is rarely turned down, and who knows, the guest might end up introducing you to the other guests! Talk about the food, the décor, the host and ease your way into conversations. Genius, right? You’re welcome!
Read The Signs
Body language speaks more than words during parties. Observe people and approach the ones that seem friendly and easy to talk to. A simple ‘Hello’ sometimes, is enough to do the trick. And if you’re feeling a little more daring, why not shower a few compliments around? You’ll surely get another one in return. Bonus points if you happen to spot someone who also seems like they’re flying solo. Who knows, it could just be a start of a new friendship!
Give Yourself Some Time
If the person you’re talking to doesn’t seem too interested in keeping up with the conversation, go ahead and excuse yourself. It’s natural to run out of things to talk to but, don’t let anxiety get to you. Get yourself some more snacks, take regular bathroom breaks, and once you are comfortable enough, repeat the above with a potential new friend.
Time Everything Right
It’s always advisable to go late to a party you’re regretting going to. That way, you won’t have to keep looking at your watch every few minutes or telling yourself ‘Just one more hour’. Plan your exit right before entering the venue and in case you do get lucky and end up making friends, you can always stay around for longer. Remember there is no spotlight on you and just be your regular self.
Parties are supposed to be fun, and remember that the next time you find yourself alone at one. You never know what the night may have in store for you, after all!