Do you have moments where you head out, see someone you would want to chat to? But just don?t know what to say?
We all want to have more friends and be good at socializing. But some of us don?t know how to talk to strangers; some may be hesitant to approach people or even be too shy. So here is how you can start making friends and indulge in some casual chit-chat. Here are ten things to do when you want to socialize.
- This may take some work, but the first thing you can do is to start developing good social skills.
Not everyone is born with great social skills, but they can definitely be cultivated. With some effort you can really make a difference in your confidence and your impressions quickly. Polite manners, appropriate body language and good etiquettes constitute your social skill. Be Patient. Talking to strangers is never easy. Try to read on varied topics which will help you strike up a conversation. And the more you do it, the easier it will get. Give conversations time to develop. Start out slowly with people. Begin conversations with open-ended questions like, "How's it going?" and let the other person run with the conversation.
- Make eye contact.
This is important as a lot is conveyed through your eyes and when you avoid looking at someone?s eyes they may think you are lying or not interested.
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- Be nice to others.
Always give compliments, but don't try too hard. Don't gossip. Gossip is like a boomerang: It will always come back to you. Only say things about people that you'd be comfortable saying to their face. Similarly, it?s a good idea to avoid Negativity. Never start a conversation with a negative comment or crib to a stranger about your life?s problem. Don't say nasty or offensive things to people. Avoid touchy subjects like politics, religion, and sexuality, because people get offended easily talking about them.
- Pay attention to your outward appearance.
The way you look can help you get noticed. Groom yourself well.
- Listen more than you talk.
Respond to the other person with nodding and smiling and add your own thoughts into the mix ? but don't hijack the conversation. Conversation is a two-way street. Share something about yourself, such as where you're going or why you're there. Just be friendly. Avoid talking about the weather, as that is clichéd. Ask them questions and learn about them if you're unsure about what to say.
- Share interesting/silly ideas.
Your thoughts can open up many doors that can lead to friendship. You never know if something you say is going to cause people to think deeply, to laugh, or look at you in a different light.
- It?s important to be funny.
But without humiliating anyone else. Don?t be afraid to make fun of yourself? Only a secure person can make fun of themselves, and it immediately puts the other person at ease.
Everybody likes some attention, (even the shy ones). Pay a little attention to people, and often they'll repay you warmly. It doesn't take much.
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- Don't expect perfection out of anyone.
Especially yourself. If you ever slip up just make fun of the situation. Everyone slips up once in a while; its how you recover that makes you likeable or awkward.
The important thing to keep in mind is that people generally like cheery, friendly, positive individuals, so bring out those aspects of your personality so that people can see them. And with just a little bit of effort, you'll be making friends in no time!
See ya next time!