Picture this. You?re at a hip club or a happening party, and you happen to spot someone interesting. A stranger of course, but someone you?d love to chat a little with and perhaps get to know better. Happens to us all the time, doesn?t it? Well this time, instead of standing and staring, take the plunge and approach the beautiful stranger! Step 1: Be confident and charming, but don?t try too hard. Be genuinely cool, or you?re just going to come across as pathetic.
Image Courtesy- hdwallpapers-desktop.comStep 2: Smile. Not the creepy ?I?ve been checking you out? kind of smile, but a friendly, open smile that (you hope) will disarm the other person. Step 3: Try not to be intrusive. For example, if there?s a toast being raised or a special moment playing out, step aside for a bit. Try and approach the person during a lull, or you are definitely not going to get any attention. Step 4: Introduce yourself straight off. There?s no better way to let the other person know you?re not a creepy stalker, right? Use your full name to introduce yourself, followed by a single, interesting line??Hi I?m Shane and I design cars for BMW.? (you get the drift) Step 5: Eye contact and a firm handshake. Both work wonders. Step 6: Let the other person know why you?re interested: Be frank, what was it that made you want to pursue a conversation? ?I love the way you dance; I love dance and take salsa classes every weekend? or ?Your t-shirt tells me you support Chelsea, always good to see a fellow fan!? Honest is good, crass is not. Walk the fine line carefully.
Image Courtesy- helpful.comStep 7: Establish common ground. Focus on similarities and use these to build the conversation. Common passion points and interests (say sports, music, dance) is good. The place and occasion itself is a good starting point?for example, if someone is at a football game screening, football is obviously a likely common ground. Don?t get too intrusive?stick to neutral topics. Humour is a big bonus. If you can make the other person laugh, you?ve scored a winner! Step 8: Know when it?s time to leave. A short, impactful conversation (that leaves the other people interested and wanting more!) is what you should be aiming for. Make an exit before the conversation gets boring. Step 9: If you want to keep in touch, be upfront about it. Adding the person randomly on Facebook the next day is just plain awkward. Say, ?Hey, I?d love to continue this conversation some other time! What?s the best way to keep in touch with you?? Step 10: Don?t be afraid of rejection. It happens to the best of us. Nothing ventured, nothing gained!